Assume, man as man and his relationship to the world as a human one, and you can exchange love only for love, confidence for confidence, etc. If you wish to enjoy art, you must be an artistically trained person; if you wish to have influence on other people, you must be a person who has a really stimulating and furthering influence on other people. Every one of your relationships to man and to nature must be a definite expression of your REAL, INDIVIDUAL life corresponding to the object of your will. If you love without calling forth love, that is, if your love as such does not produce love, if by means of an EXPRESSION OF LIFE as a loving person you do not make of yourself a LOVED PERSON, then your love is impotent, a misfortune. Erich Fromm The Art of Loving
he should have used presume instead of assume but its true you can not give what is not wanted still it is better to loved and lost than to not loved at all tis a beautiful thought meant to recover from rejection?