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Steve doesn't know crap about Ross Jeffries or NLP. He is merely taking a little bit of information from a not-so-good Wikipedia entry. There's a whole lot more to what he teaches.
Most of these gurus agree that "all game is inner game."
It's not about looks or money. Seduction is mainly about your attitude and how you see yourself. There is definitely a lot of truth that the man who despises himself is one who spends time chasing women. These guys teach you to view yourself as the prize. If you act like you are the prize, then women will treat you like one as well.
They teach you how to act this way even if your history with women is abyssmal. They teach you that attraction is a process, not a feeling. And if you want to have success with a woman, you have to find out what her attraction process is. It's true that many women are confidence fetishists, but there is more to it than that.
Here's the deal. Most women are not attracted to men who lick their boots. They aren't attracted to you because you are nice to them or because you have complimented them. They certainly aren't attracted to you if you do things for them. But there are things that do kick off their attraction processes, and there are things you can do that will help you find her attraction process.
And while I like to think that Objectivist women are less prone to this than say Christians or communists, those factors probably matter a hell of a lot no matter what. There was only one Objectivist woman who really interested me. She complained that she had a "non-Objectivist boy friend" who also hated her voice. That was in 1995, and I think she is now married with two children by that same man.
Well, embedded commands do work. They have to be delivered in a certain way. Today, for example, a seminar leader said that people should "look over there by the products." The by the products phrase was a pretty obvious embedded command.
Embedded commands only work in a certain context and with a lot of work to back them up. You can't just do one and expect it to work.
People are almost always in a trance state of some type to some degree. You are in one when you read, when you drive. NLP really teaches you how the mind works. It teaches you how to fix your own and to fix others if you want.
The anchor is one key thing I learned from NLP. An anchor is just something that triggers a memory or a state. Here's a case in point. Last October, I set up a network in a small office. This included configuring a router and a DSL modem. I was sitting in the receptionist's desk when I configured the router and modem.
I had forgotten how to do this job. On Thursday, I had to do the job again. When I sat down in the chair, all of my memories came back. I suddenly remembered how to do everything I needed to do. I had it all done in 15 minutes. The chair was an anchor.
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Nobody can waste your time without your consent. If somebody wasted your time, then this is really another way of saying that you weren't focused enough, and assertive enough, to close (or limit) the conversation or interaction with the other person who allegedly 'wasted your time.' How you word things, including to yourself, can be very important. I suggest NOT saying to yourself, 'He wasted my time.' It's better to think of it as, 'I wasted my time with him.' This self-responsible wording will encourage correct thinking, i.e., thinking that assumes you have control over your life, your destiny ... and your time.
