I think your problem with the "winners - losers" conflict is what I would call "teenage angst".
At a younger "competing for compliant females" age, you are generally more sensitive to perceived competition with your peers (females do as well). However, it is those that measure themselves most to the standards of others that tend to have the lowest self-esteem. On the other hand, if you have a high opinion of yourself (high self-esteem), though not unbearably unrealistic (like thinking your an Olympic God, when your obviously not) - then others (especially females) will tend to have a high opinion of you also.
Arrogance is not what I mean (believing that you are inherently superior to everyone else).
Confidence in yourself is what I mean (being able to judge your own self-worth independently of what others think of you).
The irony is that your "winners" are just as anxious to compare themselves to you due to a lack of self-confidence in themselves rather than an overabundance of it. They need to learn this lesson, just as much as you do.