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Sunday, April 13, 2014 - 3:40pmSanction this postReply
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Excellent article, Joe.  But it feels like it should be the start of a series of articles on lies and honesty.

 

If someone lies to another to trick them into giving up a value, it may meet the definition of fraud and fraud is a violation of individual rights, as well as a criminal offense.  But an advertisement implying that a product will get gorgeous women to chase after average guys is just "puffery."  There is a spectrum of dishonesty marking the different degrees.  

 

If someone lies to a federal officer, it is a felony, but if a politican lies to their constituents, it just another day.   It seems that there should be some way to apply fraud statutes to people who run for elected office and purposefully tell untruths in exchange for votes and campaign contributions.

 

Progressives and Islamic fundamentalist start from the premise that lies can be justified by the ends being sought.  Deception becomes a tactic.

 

If you tell an ugly lie about someone, it is defamation.  Unless they are famous, then it is a free shot.

 

Because the Internet has the ability to tell lies anonymously, the lies become more frequent and more viscious.

 

Lies in the universe of information, are like fiat currency in the economy - with a corresponding Greshem-like law: the lies devalue and drive out the truth.

 

When a society becomes numb by the constancy of lies, and they are no longer irate, and they no longer rise up and demand better behavior, they become disarmed and helpless.  Obvious lies and big lies that go unchallenged end up giving lies an equal status with the truth, and gives liars an equal moral footing with those that are honest.  It results in a spectacle where someone is standing in front of people that know he is telling a lie, and he knows they know and yet he continues and they become no more than an appathetic audience.

 

Probably the worst lies are the ones that are intended to undermind people's ability to think.  All of the pseudo-scientific justifications for moral relativism, claiming genetic evidence to back racism, faking data to justify climate change legislation - these all try to tell people that they can't think in this area - it is already done, they claim.  The use of sarcastic personal attacks on a person's thinking ability being used to intimidate.  They are lies that work like a virus does... it sneaks inside and uses the host's machinery to destroy the host.  Closely related are other personal attacks designed to destroy one's reputation being used to intimidate.

 

We need better ways to understand how and where to draw the lines.



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Steve: "But an advertisement implying that a product will get gorgeous women to chase after average guys is just "puffery."  There is a spectrum of dishonesty marking the different degrees. "

Just putting this out there: Virginia Postrel's new book: The Power of Glamour: Longing and the Art of Visual Persuasion. (Just started it, myself, but it talks about the idea of glamour as seduction, enticement, and illusion, in everything from advertising, politics, and warfare, and there's an overlap there with Rand's idea of romanticism in art and philosophy.)



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Sunday, April 13, 2014 - 4:35pmSanction this postReply
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Joe M.,

 

I purchased Virgina Postrel's new book and I love the theme. I suspect that it will be great for creating more effective ways to frame Objectivist/libertarian persuasion. And clearly, Rand's fiction was far more powerful in creating passions for her ideas than the non-fiction.

 

I haven't started the book yet. I have started her previous book on the future where she sees two kinds of people - the Dynamists and Stasists - representing their psychological tendency to either be very accepting or even excited about change versus resistant and opposed to change. A case of psychology comfort zones driving the adoption of ideas/principles/positions/views that feel more comfortable to their underlying psychology.

 

But the style of a glamorous, seductive presentation, whether in fiction, advertising or politics, can still be examined and picked apart for truth or lies.  



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Sunday, April 13, 2014 - 5:17pmSanction this postReply
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I won't ask why this particular topic interested you this particular week.  You might have the makings of a novel in what you've said to date.

 

The thought occurs that if someone were a truly consistent liar you could reliably get the truth out of him simply by larding your conversations with enough yes-no questions.

 

I recently read a most interesting book about such a character, Blood Will Out by Walter Kirn.

 

We've probably all known someone like this.  The fancy term, I believe, is "sociopath".  Mine was a guy I worked and carpooled with years ago.  I'm embarrassed to say that I initially fell for his tall tales (athlete, scholar, heir, author, wine connoisseur , race-car driver in France and so interminably on) and that, once I'd seen through them I didn't have the assertiveness to turn refuse his manipulations.  To tie this in with Objectivism, he liked to spout Rand's ideas as his own inventions.  In the end, though, I got revenge.  Together with two confederates, one a co-worker who'd heard the stories but never met the guy personally, the other a friend who'd heard the stories only from me, we met for lunch at a fairly upscale restaurant.  After he'd grandiosely run off at the mouth about wine (among other topics), I asked him if, in his years in France, he'd ever tasted one by the name of Merde du Chevre.  The others at the table knew, but he didn't, that this means "goat shit".  "What year?" he replied, cooler than Iceland.  I replied in turn that the 63 and 68 (infamously bad harvests in France) were quite famous.  He'd had the older of the two.  It's never exported, I contributed; he replied that even in France only insiders can get hold of it.  "I hear it has a brownish color and a grassy taste," I continued.  No, in his experience it has a bright red color and a very rich taste.  Seeing that the others were about to crack up and spoil the game, I dropped that line of conversation.  The meal got to be a minor legend in the Southern California aerospace industry.

 

(Edited by Peter Reidy on 4/13, 5:20pm)

 

(Edited by Peter Reidy on 4/13, 5:37pm)



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Sunday, April 13, 2014 - 5:55pmSanction this postReply
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Steve: "But the style of a glamorous, seductive presentation, whether in fiction, advertising or politics, can still be examined and picked apart for truth or lies."

Of course, which is why I brought up the book, since Postrel addresses both the good and bad of glamour, its use to seduce and persuade as well as for illusion and manipulation.

And just finished THE FUTURE AND ITS ENEMIES. Not a bad read at all  (thoug a bit familiar in theme, after reading Riggenbach's IN PRAISE OF DECADENCE and THE DEVIANT'S ADVANTAGE, not to mention Rand's work.)



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Monday, April 14, 2014 - 9:24amSanction this postReply
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Some people lie for the sake of lying in the same way that others shoplift for the sake of shoplifting.  They feel a rush from the act of violating a social norm and getting away with it.  Material gain has no bearing on the act.  Short of calling them on it every time consistently until the feedback conditions a new response in the perpetrator's nervous system, I know no cure.

 

Some of you may recall my post a while back about a young lady who lied compulsively much as Joe's example liar.  I had a few brief exchanges with the boyfriend and asked him if he was sure he wanted to marry this person.  He swore up and down that he loved her totally and wanted to help her to grow into a better person.  They eloped and I have lost contact with them.  I hope it works for their sake and the sake of their newborn child, the preceding pregnancy with which motivated the elopement.  She hates me for openly calling her on her bullshit on her Facebook Wall which offered yet another reason among many for me to leave Facebook altogether.  Real life is a much sunnier place.

 

(Edited by Luke Setzer on 4/14, 9:29am)



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Monday, April 14, 2014 - 2:45pmSanction this postReply
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Joseph:

 

We expect communication to be accurate, unless there are specific reasons to have doubts

 

This observation really resonated with me.    I've got an acquaintance, who is a little sketchy, but lovable. Intelligent.  He hates insurance companies.   He has his reasons, that's for sure.  We did some business together back in the 90s, but not for over a decade.    Lunch only now.     But anyway, we have lunch every so many weeks, I've known him for years.   There is one particular non-fiction life 'story', still ongoing, that I shared with him over the years, asking for his opinion and advice.   Over the years, there is probably nobody I've shared this story more often with, in greater detail, than him.

 

Recently, last week, I found myself listening to his retelling of this story in summary form, and it was completely and totally mangled.   Nearly unrecongizable.   So removed from the facts that it seemed completely fictional.    And yet, I believe he was honestly trying to reflect back this story to me, in earnest.     Major elements had been completely inverted.   Events completely out of sequence.  My experiences, reflected back in his retelling of those experiences, were nearly unrecognizable.    It was as if, in his mind, he had reconstructed a model of what I'd been describing to him -- a non-fiction, real life series of events -- not in the manner or order that I'd described them, but in the manner and order that he'd like them to have been.   More palatable fiction from non-fiction?

 

It was an immensely depressing realization; I realized that I'd been totally wasting my breath all these years in the attempt to discuss this issue with him.    Admittedly, it was a complex sequence of ordered events, but on the other hand, over countless lunches and even interrogatory emails in which he grilled me over these events, he has had the opportunity to become an 'expert' on the history of this issue, at least.   And, complete failure.

 

I questioned my own retelling; surely, it had to be defective to be reflected back this poorly.    I looked back at old emails; no, it's all there in proper order, clearly spelled out.   But that wasn't the model that has -stuck- in his mind, and so, I failed to convey that.

The act of communictation was not accurate; the ground truth of hearing it reflected back to me sounded like whisper down the valley, with only two exchanges:   me to him, and him back to me.     Disheartening.

 

In this case, he wasn't lying to me.   At most, to himself.   Towards what end?   To construct a model of factual events told to him by another that more easily suited his vision of what that reality must have actaully been like.

 

Maybe some people do this in 'real time' and we call them habitual liars?    A certain kind of habitual liar.   One who must forever re-model perceptions of reality to make them fit.

 

Something we all might be subject to, more or less, and lets hope, less.

 

regards,

Fred



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Wednesday, April 16, 2014 - 2:54amSanction this postReply
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Thanks for the comments, everyone.  This article was not intended as commentary on recent visitors.  I actually wrote it a long time ago.

 

A friend of mine who was at the same dinner and knew about the lies didn't have the same reaction I did.  I've wondered why.  Maybe I had consciously arrived at the conclusion that every statement was probably a lie, and so I was more focused on parsing every statement and discarding all of it.  Maybe I was more worried about accepting a falsehood as true, no matter how trivial.  I think its possible to interact with a chronic liar and think it's no big deal, as long as you don't take any of it too seriously.  You might conclude that even if you believed one of the lies, it's too insignificant to harm you.  But for me, there was no point in going through the motions of pretending to have an exchange.  There was no value in it, and it felt like trying would be a pointless self-delusion.

 

But at least I got something out of it.  By questioning every statement, no matter how trivial, it allowed me to focus on the sheer number of statements of fact that are made in a conversation.

 

Perhaps another interesting point was that I felt no desire to try to communicate my own ideas to this person.  Maybe that's because teaching or explaining involves the other person to communicate understanding, agreement/disagreement, etc.  But even that couldn't be trusted.  So it felt that the barrier to communication was blocking both directions.

 

Steve, all of your topics are interesting.  But I'd like to point out that much of it focuses on lies/deception.  What interested me the most with this story is actually the heightened awareness of the amount of facts that are communicated in even simple exchanges, and how there really is an enormous amount of trust between people.

 

Peter, that's a great story!  

 

Luke, love is a funny thing.  Seems more likely that the person wanted to be in love enough to overlook the obvious problems.  That can't last long.

 

Fred, I think it's hard to speculate without knowing more details.  As someone who has written lots of articles and had people comment on them, I know that no matter how clear we think our communication is, many people will only understand a fraction of it.  It can be disheartening, especially when you think you were successful in communicating, and find out later that it didn't happen.



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