To clear up some confusion, for anyone who actually seeks that: When people choose their friends, lovers, colleagues, neighbors, etc. they always have various personal preferences, based on their individual nature and nurture. Thus each individual, whether consciously or not, prefers and generally seeks, those of a certain gender, age, intelligence, education, morality, manners, personality, race, sub-race, nationality, tribe, height, weight, athleticism, philosophy, religion, social history, personal history, experience, attitude, character, skin color, hair color, eye color, health, wealth, ambition, desire, outlook, etc. None of these personal preferences makes you a bigot, racist, sexist, homophobe, tribalist, ageist, lookist, heightist, weightist, etc. And none of this makes bigotry, racism, sexism, tribalism, etc. natural, normal, proper, decent, or morally tolerable.