I found the following quote from Bill's link to be a "predictable" shocker (yes, I know, that's contradictory of me to say that) -- when I was watching that Mike Wallace interview of Rand:
Rand : “You love only those who deserve it."
Wallace: “and then if a man is weak or a woman is weak he is or she is beyond love?” Rand: “He certainly does not deserve it."
Rand goes on to say: "He certainly is beyond it . . . he cannot expect the unearned, neither in love or in money, in matter or in spirit.”
Saying that a bunch of folks don't deserve love is a shocking thing to say. It's scary (it sure scared me, the first time I heard it). It's true, but shocking and scary. The first thought is to question whether you, yourself, deserve love. The second question is to ask what it'd take to deserve love. I have always found great wisdom in the sentence: If you want a friend, be a friend.
It shows that you can't just go to the corner store, put some coins in the vending machine, and choose a "friend" who will pop out and love you for who you are and always. Instead of being entitled to love and friendship, we have to start first with some personal moral ambition. We have to want to grow and become better people. We have to try taking steps in that direction. Then, and only then, are we worthy or deserving of love. So, I came up with another saying: If you want to be loved, be lovable.
:-)
Ed
p.s. Parental love of small children is different, because children, if they are small enough, aren't yet even aware of the possibility of personal moral ambition. Even less so if they are taught wrong by collectivist nursery school and kindergarden teachers.
(Edited by Ed Thompson on 6/12, 8:34pm)
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