Oh, I must have misunderstood the "question and answer" part of the "question and answer." Should we rather call it, "Answer so I can attack?" You think I'm trying to set myself as superior? Where do you get this stuff?
You should have more faith in me. (That's a joke)
I will tell you what I'm thinking if you want. I'm still not convinced, but I wouldn't mind it if someone were to convince me.
Some people depend on others, and will cause themselves great harm at the request of a loved one. I think that is unhealthy, having been on both sides to some extent, and immoral for both persons involved. Another person should not be our only reason for living, nor should we sacrifice our joy for theirs. In a healthy love, such a win-lose situation is rare, and can always be worked out. I assume that this is not far off from the idea of not living for another.
But why can they not be your greatest, most enjoyable reason to live? Not because you need them, or because they’re deceiving or controlling you, but because you both choose for it to be so. Everyone needs a purpose, or a reason to get up in the morning. Everyone has a reason for not committing suicide, or continuing to eat. For many, it is only an attempt to avoid pain - pathetic. Well, I subscribe to the Objectivist belief that “to love is to value.”
What if I love someone more than myself? What if you recognize that that person is better than you are, in every aspect? I imagine a sexy female John Galt, like a one-stop Wal-Mart that fulfills all your needs. Anyway, you recognize that you are doing pretty well, but certainly not like that ideal person. You realize that this other person is better than you.
Obviously you want to do is improve yourself, but if our love is to be realistic, and based in the present reality, shouldn’t we love that other person more? Unless you would have us love something that isn’t there. Ok then, hit me Stephen, I know you want to.