|So you don't care about the "promiscuity" after all. Good to know, you shouldn't. If there was "infidelity" or "adultery" on her part during the thick of it (I am not going to dignify the pre-marital part of this dirt-fest, because it is so purely pointless, ridiculous and pedestrian, even by the standards of where this discussion now lies), it doesn't mean squat. The barn door was wide open the second NB, BB, AR and FO'C agreed to the arrangement they agreed to. At that point, you are way out of the territory where words like those bear any specific meaning. I don't even care if the arrangement was dreamed up solo, duo, or if somebody came up with it from an advice column. All parties were equally responsible for results. The "arrangement" should have been rejected by all parties. The proper arrangements would have been separations, and/or divorces. Being friendly within the ranks after that would have been preferrable, but optional. But no one did that, and it blew itself to shit. It doesn't matter if you think (as I do) that the senior dog in charge should have not only not formulated the idea, but been the first to have discouraged it, not only in their own mind but in the mind of anyone else that brought it to them. Everybody did otherwise, and it blew itself to shit, like it virtually always does. Pragmatically, it is a rotten gamble, even if you think you are rational, reasonable, mature, and/or elevated enough to handle it. It is a rationalization, and it goes against the reality of how human beings typically operate and what they can and can't handle.
None of this matters, because they went for it. All four of them. The repercussions, the ramifications, the payback, the ugliness, the damage, the guilt are bloody well sufficient for all of them, I am certain.
Now, if you think that BB disqualified herself from experiencing pain from that Affair<tm> due to the reasons you give, you do not accept that things don't add up all neat and properly reconciled like that in the typical human psyche, which is not a spreadsheet. That kind of pain is entirely real, believe it. There is nothing "precious" about it.
(Edited by Rich Engle on 9/27, 1:54pm)
(Edited by Rich Engle on 9/27, 1:57pm)