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Thursday, June 18, 2015 - 12:52pmSanction this postReply
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I am glad this article passed moderator muster to reach the RoR site as a linked external article, and that someone has already sanctioned it.

 

I read an interesting book a few years ago called Emotional Vampires by Albert Bernstein and ran a search on that term recently to see who else used it.  That led me to the Mark Manson article.  What made it worth sharing here was his reference to Nathaniel Branden.

 

Fun question:

 

Which three of Branden's The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem does Manson mean when he says:

Emotional vampires exhibit three specific traits simultaneously: an excessive need for validation/attention from others, the belief that little to nothing that occurs is their fault, and the lack of self-awareness to recognize their self-defeating patterns. People who are familiar with Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden will recognize that these are three of the six pillars — or rather, a lack of three of the pillars.

I cannot say I agree with the entirety of the article since there can indeed be times when the collective is to blame rather than the individual so-called "vampire."  Would he call any of the heroes of any of Ayn Rand's novels "vampires" when they learn the collective is at fault and properly blame them?  One wonders.

 

That said, I see a strong theme of social metaphysics in the vampire's affliction according to Manson.

 

I thought this article would make a fun discussion so I hope others enjoy it.



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Thursday, June 18, 2015 - 1:31pmSanction this postReply
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I wasn't impressed with the article.  There was a serious lack of depth in the understanding of clinical psychology, diagnosis, and psychotheraputic approaches.  What some people don't know about Nathaniel Branden is the strength of his understanding in each of these areas.  He created his own theoretical orientation and invented brand new theraputic techniques, but he built these AFTER learning about the other theoretical orientations.  He also experienced different theraputic approaches first hand.  His Phd. was from school with a Freudian orientation, and he could speak very fluently of Freudian defense structures.  I'm trying not to get all stuffy and put down someone's article that is written in plain terms about personal growth, and I'm not advocating that all articles be academic and rife with footnotes and jargon.  But when I read that article what I saw were thoughts that hadn't had the benefit of a strong education in these areas.



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The essay was worth a red check, though it was not the article I would have written. Someone who is an emotional vampire is not going to read the article, see themselves in it, and seek therapy. I point out that Luke has written articles like this, but about third persons, people in our lives who drain us.  I find that more fruitful in that the reader actually can and likely will take the advice and put it to use.  An emotional vampire is going to be in denial on many levels, engaging many interlocking defenses that prevent them from even reading the article.

 

That being as it may, the work was interesting.



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