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I dunno about this book Luke. Okay, yes, there is an expansive group of young, inexperienced western males (and probably an expansive untapped book market). And I can see a book like this claiming a noble purpose by saving some foolish men from an unhappy marriage with a manipulative and unappreciative wife... not to mention the tragedies of the modern divorce. But NLP still? Misandrist conspiracies?
Look, telling men to be assertive, to improve their own lives, to not focus primarily on the perfect woman; these are wonderful things, I wholeheartedly agree. But then, according to your review, the book dives into models and Jungian typologies; how to act on the woman's senses and feelings. (gee, the focus moved back to the woman pretty quickly.) :) It's the whole Machiavellian manipulation that gives me a bad taste...
Every guy I've known who is successful with women, isn't necessarily good looking, nor has he learned charts or models or memorized a single neuro-linguistic anchor phrase. The effect is simply the experience gained translated into the confidence that you'll say the right thing at the right time. This book instead tells you when and what to say, I assume with the thinking that the reader will gather just enough confidence to 'fake it 'till he makes it.' Similar line with 'the test.' Well of course they test you. You test them too, just like you 'test' your friends and relatives, almost always inadvertently. To not test anyone would require clairvoyance I think. Again the answer to being tested is experience and self-respect, which Mr. Neder appears to adhere to in a roundabout, 'Us vs Them' kind of way.
Again, it's a good idea for a book. A lost or inexperienced man might find some use to these techniques, as long as he keeps his head about him and avoids hurting anyone. One thing I personally could attest to however is never misrepresent yourself to a girl early on (or ever). I doubt Neder advocates any outright lying, but it usually doesn't make any difference to the girl when reality comes out. (Not to mention misrepresenting yourself is a red flag of low self-esteem). In hindsight, if I were to give similar advice to a younger guy, I'd probably just hand him Branden's Six Pillars book and tell him that the book plus motivation is everything he needs to succeed with women, and work, and success...
Thank you Luke
p.s. Ironic how the word misogynist is recognized by the SOLO spell check, but the antonym misandrist is not... talk about your double standards... ;P
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