“I take this to mean that in such a case you are led to negative conclusions about yourself -- that you do not really accept the "fundamentals" you tell yourself you accept.”
Actually it does make me reevaluate whether the fundamentals are there on their part (and my part) and if I might be selectively focusing on inessentials negatives (if that is the case).
I am coming to the conclusion that if I met a woman that is truly objective then it would be highly unusual that I would have no attraction for her. The degree to the attraction would vary (mainly because of her and my sense of life) but it “should” definitely be there to some extent. This does not mean that we are matched for a long-term relationship. I also have to admit that I have met very few women in person that I would consider truly objective or making a serious effort to be.
“For instance, Leonard Peikoff and I share a certain metaphysics, epistemology, and ethics (loosely), but the chemistry sure ain't there!”
Besides the fact that you two are related I was under the impression that you don’t think well of him at all, nor the way he interprets Rand’s philosophy so I don’t think it strange that you would not be attracted to him.