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I agree. Male-female news habits won't get you much in terms of a relationship. However, let's not forget that he followed his statistic with "To them, a current event is the release of a new shade of lipstick." To claim that as based on years of research is unacceptable.
He meant, not all women, but the ones who do not watch the news but do focus on values like style and fashion.
I disagree with other parts of his too. The don't be friends rule? Absurd. All of my relationships start with friendship as a foundation.
If you actually read the book, he devotes an entire section to the "friends into lovers" phenomenon. He warns the reader to proceed with caution because once that threshold is crossed, there is no going back. If the primary goal is to find a lover and not a friend, then spending time with women who want to be "just friends" will have less payoff than spending time with women who want to be lovers. This does not mean a man cannot meet a woman and integrate a bond of friendship with the dating ritual, but it does mean it is time to say, "Next!", when a woman says she wants to be "just friends" and squander loads of time in "pal around" mode. For an anecdote about my own lessons learned from a close "Platonic" relationship gone sour, see my article "Houseguests from Hell."
Jon wrote:
I go into meeting a gay thinking, “He’ll be a real ass” because I am convinced being gay has a genetic cause that also and always causes assedness.
Or, I go into meeting a gay thinking, “He’ll be a real ass” because I am convinced that in the gay culture they encourage each other to be asses.
The problem in both cases is that I am prejudging an individual based on some kind of “Well, only 40% are X, Y or Z.”
False. I would go into the meeting thinking, "I have a 40% chance of encountering someone who is an ass. Therefore, I will act with a commensurant degree of caution." Your statement assumes that a person will judge all people as 100% X, Y, or Z based on a 40% statistic. I never said that. I said the statistics offer a guide to get started. I have just clearly stated the commensurate guide between statistics and productive action.
Mike Erickson wrote:
Jon is exactly right, you look for the individuals you want to interact with, don't let your generalizations get in the way of finding them.
See my comments to Jon about the filtering process.
Newberry wrote:
The theme of his site is about achieving and maintaining laidom.
The theme of his site is about moving quickly and effectively toward quality romantic relationships.
Gary wrote:
The demonizing of female humans over male humans is preposterous.
There is no demonizing here. There is only a dispute about the best way to mate.
(Edited by Luke Setzer on 1/12, 5:47am)
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