| | I'd like to add something to post #7 of this thread, plus an apology to Jon afterwards.
In November in the "All the Rage That's Fit to Print -- BB's talk" [ http://rebirthofreason.com/Forum/GeneralForum/0710.shtml#5] I said:
"The presumption is made that a person HAS good character unless it is proven otherwise."
Prompting this reply:
"Someday, we may live in a society that permits one to use your principle, but my experience is that we are not there."
I answered with:
"I think I use my principle every day, and I think a great many people do. There are actually a lot more decent people out there than not, I mean a LOT more. By decent I mean people who mean well, have a reasonable amount of goodwill towards other people. It is a mistake to not, in general, give people the benefit of the doubt in your every day interactions. I don't leave my house and forget to lock it but I don't have discussions with people while harboring the suspicion from the get go that "they might be evil". If someone proves themselves to be an irascible moron I don't have a problem with telling them that, but I don't conclude they're evil. Neither do I conclude that I'm a "pollyanna".
Even having a discussion presumes disagreement. If everyone agreed on a particular topic there would be no need to have a discussion about it. The purpose for an individual having a discussion should be to either gain new knowledge about a topic or pass on your knowledge to another individual. This presumes in both cases that you value the person or persons that you are having the discussion with and you have goodwill towards them. Occasionally someone actually changes their mind about a topic. This GOODWILL is a very important thing to hang onto if anyone is to achieve their initial purpose. Even if neither party comes to an agreement with the other if you truly STARTED OUT with goodwill there is no reason not to END UP with goodwill towards the other party. One of the ways to maintain goodwill is to find some point of agreement with the other person and try to build on it. What disappoints me often is when discussions "blow up" because of the unwillingness of one or both parties to find a single point of agreement. You can always nit pick your way around any point anyone tries to make about anything if you desire to do so and many otherwise intelligent people are very good at it."
My apology to Jon: You were right to point out the hypocrisy between what I "preach" and how I reacted to your posts. My expectation was that we will NOT come to an agreement, possibly due to my disagreements with you on past issues. So I did not START OUT showing goodwill towards you in the rights thread. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO FIX THIS. All I can say is I really believe what I said above, I think the hypocrisy I've shown is a result of some sort of "stage fright", I am not used to public discussions, frankly, I'm not used to modifying my views much based on the arguments of others. I'm touchy about others impugning my honesty or my intelligence. I don't know why I care, perhaps I'm being a "second hander", but there it is.
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