| | I am compelled to weigh in with John here, Steve. I think he is wrong about voluntarily dismissing unwanted and unrealistic emotional responses, but I think you are quite wrong that he doesn't know enough to discuss the issue!! He has emotions, and he has as much chance to force them away as you have, and as much ability to observe the results. Clinical experience isn't necessary, and academic psychology is not unequivocal on the issue. It isn't like you to claim authority on an issue like this.
That said, John, I will argue with Steve that humans cannot, in fact, wish away, or force away unwanted emotions. The evidence for this is extensive, if not without its opponents. Unwanted emotions are a problem for legions of people. Repression itself isn't all that easy or 100% successful, and is high-maintenance over time.
There are other strategies we use to cope with or work with unwanted emotions. But what you describe, thinking about an emotion, deciding it doesn't make sense, and then voluntarily eliminating it, based on that decision, does not seem to be possible. It has always proved impossible for me to do, personally, and it has proved impossible for untold millions of troubled people to do, as documented in literature, biographies, and clinical practice.
Emotions that don't fit with one's beliefs are called "ego-dystonic." You can pretty much generalize that all people suffer from ego-dystonic emotions at some times, many, many people are constantly troubled by them, typically in the form of anxiety and depression that don't fit the sufferer's estimate of their existential circumstances.
It may be that what you are describing is a process of insight that actually alters the beliefs and value-assessments that, under given circumstances, have heretofore caused "you" to feel a certain emotion. It is theoretically and, I will testify, and testify both from the first-person and the third-person, clinical perspective, possible to change a problematic emotional response in this way, in a moment, with a new understanding of the relevant issues. The insight, it is crucial to realize, is not that the emotion is uncalled-for, or unrealistic.
The way this works is completely consistent with the cognitive-evaluative-emotional causal sequence Steve is (I believe) arguing for. What Steve and I hold is that all emotions are automated responses to an event, an observation, or a thought, caused by our understanding of the existential import of that thing, followed by our evaluative estimation of that thing. Emotions can neither be brought into being nor eliminated by will-power, nor by the simple knowledge that that emotion doesn't make sense.
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