I all ready responded to this but apparently my post was lost, so I apologize if it pops up again later. 

I think what Phil had to say here has some value, for starters two of these woman were into objectivism in high school, so there are some data points for his hypothesis.  I have found that the more someone identifies themselves with the big O Objectivist the more likely they seem to have a pejorative and self absorbed attitude.  Of course my sample is small and I rarely partake in formal objectivist events (partly because of the above)

As far as George and John's comments I am very well aware that woman might not like me, in fact I am sure a great many do not!  But in these two cases I do not think that was the simplest explanation.  I appreciate George’s comments but in reality he doesn’t know the situation well enough and in these cases I will refer to my own rational judgment and there have been quite a few women I did not find self absorbed who had objectivist leaning who I liked a great deal (well one anyway)  One of these self absorbed -ish women did indeed end up with no interest in me once we actually went on a date (where again she was polite and talkative and even engaging, but did not seek to learn anything about me), which was fine as I had lost interest in her for these reasons but prior to that we had talked quite a few times, mostly online.  She usually initiated the conversation and initiated our meeting, but even in those conversations where she must have clearly been intrigued she made no effort in these regards.  In fact the only question, literally, she ever asked me was a 'Hey, how are you doing' once when she initiated a conversation with me. 

The other one I have been 'friends' with for some time and we even dated for a little while, but she was and still is the same way.  Even now she will invite me to social gatherings and not have much to say to me.  Given that she complained that there are no inspirational people in her life, I think it's sad. 

I don't think shallow is an appropriate description though, as that seems to have too many negative conversations.  Perhaps ignorant in the nature of relationships or inexperienced, they seemed more like they had a desire to be very personable but were unable to manifest that into actions, as if they were just going through the motions of having a friend.  With the later girl nearly every single time we hung out it was the same thing, I recall once when we started talking / dating that I had been discussing a few times an upcoming job including the interview.  A few days past the interview I had mentioned to her that I got the job, she had never asked and apologized for not recalling it.  I wasn’t mad or annoyed, I just think behavior like that is indicative of a whole slew of other things.  That kind of distance is not anything I would want out of a romantic relationship; i'd rather not have one at all. 

In all of this I am definitely refining my list of what I look for in a woman.  Like most ‘objectivists’ I value honesty, sincerity, integrity, and passion very highly, but I also highly value kindness and a general fondness of other people (I loved Rand's line just before Roark's courtroom speech “And for that instance, each man was free-free enough to feel the benevolence for each man in the room” )  Those latter two qualities I have a hard time finding in Rand admirers for whatever reasons and I think having a fundamental eudaimonic interest in another person requires similiar emotions as that fondness.

Michael F Dickey

Just be glad you guys are in a position to date single O’ist women (let alone have em as friends). Try living in New Mexico.