| | "I had one hissy fit. Surely that's allowed?"
I didn't notice any hissy fit...maybe I'm just used to ignoring adolescent huffing and puffing, which I found usually works the best. In fact, I refused to communicated with my kids when they would resort to whining. "I don't listen to whining," I would tell them. Result: my kids don't whine. They talk.
"And yes, the boy's education is at risk. And I'm not the type that would look for permission, anyway. I'm just looking for the objectivist viewpoint on this sort of stuff. I'm not the girl, oh no, thank you. These kids are trying to live life their way without letting the blackmail of "you're dependent on us" curb their individual freedom."
It's a shame that they would threaten him over something so completely natural and normal. As parents, they suck to the highest degree, and I don't mind saying it. Cutting this kid off from his budding sense of value is going to explode in their face, and they'll be left wondering...I can see it coming, and trust me, it's coming.
"The parents do not want the boy to be seen with any kind of a girl, however angelic she may be."
They're idiots, and they're wrong. Sorry, I can't feign respect for a parental power technique so fucking backward and ignorant that is negates the very thing they're trying to get out of him: Responsibility.
Emotionally and cognitively, "the horse is out of the barn" for this boy, and it happened exactly as it should have, when it should have. There's no bringing him back in. There's no tying it back down. His mind as been "outside."
Ignoring normal development won't stop it from happening, nor will denying him his own nature through threats cause the outcome they hope for (whatever the hell that is.)
He's NORMAL, he's displaying HEALTHY attractions for the opposite sex, he's being RATIONAL in trying to attain his romantic goals. Repression of, through force, this normal, healthy, and rational behaviour in a young man will lend more to his confusion of women, sex, romance, because it maintains an IRRATIONAL MYSTERY to it all.
This is exactly the right time for his parents to be aware of his interests and keeping him abreast of what is appropriate, and what is not. When a child isn't even allowed to ask questions about a subject, in this case, his feelings for a girl, they'er sending the message that there is something wrong with him, when there simply isn't. He'll be forced to work it out himself, without his parents guidance and help. He'll be forced to make up his own rules, which he's already doing. Shame on his parents. If he's lying about it, it's their fault. If he gets into trouble, they're to blame.
"The parents are quite freedom-loving in the sense that they say he can live life his way - after he graduates from college."
Clearly, that's much much too late. If they succeed in barning him until then, he'll be completely unprepared to deal with the ladies. He'll miss out on important lessons (about himself, mostly) that early crushes provide. He'll wind up with any female that gives him a second glance. He'll "love" anyone that shows the least bit of interest in him without knowing what he wants in a relationship. He'll be set up for much harder let downs than he is now, because he's not prepared to deal with disappointment. He simply has no experience in knowing how to deal with it.
"Their line is, "you're too young". And maybe they're right, after all."
They're wrong. All the way around this, they're plain wrong. It's a huge lie they've bought into. He's not too young to have crushes nor to act on them within limits. Without emotional experiences to reflect on, by the time he graduates from college he'll have absolutely nothing to offer a women emotionally. Worse, he won't understand why.
"I just wanted to know what objectivists would say to this restriction being applied."
Well, I've just given you what this Objectivist thinks of it. It sucks and it's wrong.
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