| | If you don't believe that they do, I probably can't do anything to change that (aside from doing a large amount of research). Nor could you convince me that none do. Suffice it to say that I believe some women do, and those are the ones I'm interested in. I don't put such limits on myself. I know that when I have a good, healthy relationship, it will change both of us for the better. Two people who love each other inspire one another to improve themselves. They challenge the people they love.
Can you show me this? You're stating it as a fact. Aside from that, I don't really care to be a seducer, even if it gets me more sexual interaction. Find a natural seducer or think about someone you may have known in the past. Think about what he did, how he talked, how he walked, and how he stood out in a crowded room.
I never had any desire to be an Olympic swimmer, but that doesn't mean I couldn't learn from them. I don't expect you to become a natural seducer. But it does sound like you want more power and choice in your romantic life. I'm trying to tell you that there are ways that you can get it.
Why say all this? This makes me more inclined to disapprove of your method, since I now associate it with anger, rather than benevolence. Your association is correct. Tony was acting like a five year old. I expected him to act like an adult.
Did you try talking to him rationally and benevolently? "I understand you have frustrations about hotels, but..." I never did because I figured it would be useless.
Actually, I don't want it. I see this as a way of living in submission to fear. Perhaps most women will "LJBF" me--I accept that it's their moral right to do so--but a few won't. I see what you mean here. You can't go out sarging motivated by the fear of being of LJBF'd. You have to have a positive goal--which is getting a woman's natural attraction process moving toward yourself.
What do you want? What is your plan for getting it?
By the way, sarging is a term we use to mean pursuring a woman or trying to pick up. Ross Jeffries had a male cat named Sarge, who was apparently pretty horny.
Every woman has a right to LJBF me. I also have a right to want more than that.
Furthermore, I think it's repulsive to "piggyback" on a woman's good memories by associating them with yourself, when you weren't even there, and didn't share the same kind of memory. Yes, but I am going to create better memories for her anyway. It's about giving a woman a great experience that she can keep with her even if she only spends one night with me.
This kind of piggybacking happens all the time. It often happens that I become interested in a woman because she reminds me of someone else. There's a lot more to it anyway.
You mean like tact, honesty, rationality, integrity, benevolence, assertiveness, and being able to listen well? Those are the kinds of social skills (or virtues) I had in mind. Many such "social skills" are non-verbal. Most of Speed Seduction is non-verbal. It's voice tone, body language, and pacing. It's how you pause, how you annunciate your words, how you hold yourself.
You earlier said that such techniques bypass rationality. They do. A sophisticated verbal language is what separates humans from the rest of the animal kingdom. It is a product of human rationality. Non-verbal communication is for animals. Unfortunately, the subconscious mind pays more attention to the primitive form of communication.
This is why I say that NLP is like speaking a different language. Being a rational being, I worked on developing rational modes of communicaton for most of my life. Now I am catching up and learning to speak the primitive, backward language that most people speak.
If people like your non-verbal communication, they will listen to almost anything you say and like it. If they don't like your non-verbal communication, it doesn't matter what you say.
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A 'nice' man only knows how to be agreeable. He doesn't know how to challenge women and he can't or won't set the lead. And he filters everything he says through the belief that women are fragile little flowers who need to handled with OH so much care lest they be broken. YUUCH. One more thing: women don't trust his communication because he just won't dare say anything that might offend them. Now a pleasant man is something quite different: pleasant is power, held in proper restraint and exercised with precision and elegance. A pleasant man will speak his mind, set the lead, but he also knows how to listen and show the proper degree of interest and respect. He may put himself first, but he also genuinely cares for and cares about his woman (or women). They are of great importance to him as long as they treat him right and work within the rules that he has made very clear. Most important: his world is his own. He never, NEVER makes the WOMAN his world, around which he orbits. He does allow her to come into his world and occasionally even be at the center WITH him.
